…..my understanding is that the first step to take in having a real conversation is simply to stop having the one that you are having now.By definition the courageous conversation is the conversation that you’re not having nowand also by definition the courageous conversation is the one that you don’t want to haveand the courageous […]
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According to William Ury, co-founder of the Harvard Negotiation Project and an expert in de-escalating high-stakes conflicts around the world, bringing focus and attention to our own self-management is the first critical step in conflict negotiation. In his Path to Possible method he outlines three stages, the first of which he calls “Go the Balcony”.
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Public speaking presents an opportunity. A chance to share knowledge, thoughts and understanding with others. Yet, sadly, the anxiety and fear of standing and speaking in front of others may prevent us offering our wisdom. Scot Chisholm, founder of Classy, a nonprofit giving platform, cultivates these 6 public speaking hacks. They helped transform him from
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“It is the province of knowledge to speak, and the privilege of wisdom to listen” -19th century author and physician, Oliver Wendell Holmes Sr. “Knowledge Speaks, Wisdom Listens” -Widely attributed to Jimi Hendrix In an ideal world we are well served when these two protagonists both show up. The first quote reminds us that it is
How often do we make resolutions for behavior change, yet immediately reduce our chances for success by making them completely dependent on willpower. For example, we decide to exercise on Monday, Wednesday and Friday, yet we quickly allow negotiation to enter the picture. We’re tired, have too much work, don’t feel motivated and before we know it
“….my understanding is that the first step to take in having a real conversation is simply to stop having the one that you are having now.By definition the courageous conversation is the conversation that you’re not having nowand also, by definition the courageous conversation is the one that you don’t want to haveand the courageous
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The “hidden curriculum”, symbolizes those forces and behaviors, both good and bad, that we observe and absorb throughout medical education and training. The question is whether we are fully aware of and above all, in agreement with the playbook that we are following? Without a conscious reckoning with this powerful, pervasive undercurrent in our lives,
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Discovering the profound dissonance between their values and those expressed, overtly or covertly, by their workplace is a common theme with many of my physician clients. Initially, they may experience a degree of relief at recognizing that this conflict underlies much of the frustration, anger, anxiety and even sadness that they are experiencing with their
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I was so infuriated by a client’s emotional account as a recipient of lousily delivered feedback, that I immediately began to pen a blog on the inadequacies of feedback. This has long been an area of concern in medicine, given that feedback provides the backbone of how we learn. Concerns range from feedback underuse (sometimes
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When we think of our strengths, it is tempting to concentrate on those skills that we have honed and narrowly focused on over the years, as increasing specialization and sub-specialization have become conventional wisdom for success. In the process of doing so what we may in fact be doing is not only building in a
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